Balancing Motherhood & Ambition | Traci Peterson | Work Like a Mother Podcast, Episode 20
Join host Marina on the "Work Like A Mother Podcast" as she chats with Traci Peterson and delves into empowering mothers and daughters through personal development. In this inspiring episode, Traci shares her journey of creating a transformative movement that includes mother-daughter date nights and a weekend summit designed to foster growth, connection, and confidence. Discover how these events and Traci’s insights on goal-setting with gratitude can reshape parenting and education. Learn about Traci’s role as a board-certified nurse practitioner, CEO, and an international speaker who motivates women to find balance, celebrate achievements, and live in alignment with their values. Whether you're homeschooling, seeking personal growth, or looking to cultivate a stronger bond within your family, this episode provides valuable guidance and tools to support mothers and daughters in building self-belief and embracing their uniqueness. Tune in for a dose of motivation and learn how you can join the movement to elevate wellness and confidence in your life and the lives of young girls!
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Transcript:
Marina [00:00:05]:
I am so excited for today's episode because we have a freaking powerhouse in the room. Her name is Tracy Peterson. She is a board certified nurse practitioner, a CEO of elevate wellness and aesthetics, a founder, and an international speaker. And let me just tell you, when I was looking at her speaker kit, I was like, oh, my gosh, she is fierce, she is intense, and she's going to be so fire today. She's on a mission to help moms and daughters who learn to love themselves. They lean on God as we raise the next generation of leaders. And really, it's helping become your best for you and becoming the best for her. So I love that we're gonna talk about daughters today and pride in yourself, in mastering your role as a mother, a wife, and a woman of faith, and leading example of all of your leadership roles.
Marina [00:00:42]:
You have lived a life of experience through your career and through mothering. And now you're in a position to be able to help other women do the same thing, to get clear on what's most important and to do it in a way that's not going to cause us to go cuckoo, but we can actually have a really amazing life. So we're in alignment with that, which I'm super excited about. And you got three littles. Not the littles anymore. Eleven year old, a nine year old, and a six year old. So you've been there. You're in it.
Marina [00:01:03]:
You're in it with us, which is so great. But welcome to the show, Tracy.
Traci [00:01:07]:
Thank you so much. I'm so excited to be here.
Marina [00:01:11]:
Yeah.
Traci [00:01:12]:
Powerful women you have on this podcast, and I'm talking to one right now.
Marina [00:01:15]:
I'm just. I've been amazed at just the connections we've had on this podcast. And you are one that I'm so excited for people to get to know because I think you're on this roller coaster and it's only going up. It's gonna be so good for you in 2024. And I can't wait for your own podcast to come out. Hopefully, by the time this comes out, yours will be launched so we can cross promote that. What did it take to get to where you are? Like, what was your career journey before you got here?
Traci [00:01:38]:
My career path really started in medicine. As funny as it sounds, I remember when I was a little girl and I used to joke with my mom. I would say, mom, I want to deliver my own baby. I want to be an ob gyn. What? Like, what little kid says that, you know, and I'm in. I'm in my backyard with my exacto knife, like, dissecting snails and things like that. I'm like, what kind of kid was I? But that's, that's kind of how I was as a kid. I was always set on helping people and being somehow in the health or medical field.
Traci [00:02:08]:
And so I ended up going to nursing school, and then I got my master's degree to be a nurse practitioner. And I practiced in family medicine and family practice for seven years. And then that model, you know, I almost feel like you. We reinvent ourselves every, like, five to seven years.
Marina [00:02:27]:
Oh, yeah.
Traci [00:02:28]:
It's almost like we continue to evolve as a person. We continue to, to grow and learn and be enlightened. And every five to seven years, there's like this little itch and we're like, okay, what's next for me? You know, what's my next level? And so I was sitting, I remember sitting in the family practice office, which is just crazy that they give you like, 15 minutes to talk about four chronic health issues and medication management and all those things. And I kept my head in my computer the whole time. And I remember looking up at the end, I'm like, anything else? This sweet woman sitting across from me, and I'm like, anything else? And I see these tears welling up in her eyes. And I closed my computer and I put my hand on her leg, and I'm like, what's going on? And she just burst into tears. She's like, I'm depressed. I have no one to talk to.
Traci [00:03:12]:
I've got five kids at home. I've got this pulling me in this direction and this pulling me in this direction. And I'm just like, I gotta make a little bit of a shift. Cause this doesn't feel like it's in alignment with what I wanna create anymore in my life. I'm still a nurse practitioner, but I shifted my focus more into medical aesthetics because that's right when I started having kids. So I needed the flexibility to not work nights, holidays, weekends, on call, all of that, and I just needed flexibility. So I switched to medical aesthetics. And then about six and a half years ago, I was introduced to network marketing and direct sales, and I was totally oblivious to it.
Traci [00:03:52]:
And I'm like, you know what? That might be cool. Like, I'll try that. I'll try that out, you know? And it just felt different. It felt good to me. And so really, I kind of made multiple shifts throughout my, throughout my professional career. And we got started in network marketing, saw a lot of success really quickly. And I'm so grateful for the industry because I think, you know, coming from being a nurse practitioner and evolving into a networker, I think network marketing done wrong can be like an absolute nightmare for a lot of people. And there's a lot of preconceived notions about it.
Traci [00:04:25]:
But network marketing done right can literally change you forever.
Marina [00:04:30]:
Oh, yeah.
Traci [00:04:31]:
And I never, I just never could have fathomed the personal development, the sense of community, especially that we as women, we need, and just the financial, you know, security and the options that it affords us. So, you know, we were able to retire my husband from that and we've been able to help a lot of people, you know, across, across the world in 16 different countries. And so that opens up other doors, right? So six to seven years into that, now I get to pursue different passion projects while still building that business and supporting people with, you know, their mental and physical health. And that's this next project that we have with this mother daughter movement called b, that I just absolutely love.
Marina [00:05:15]:
And I'm so, tell me more, what is be?
Traci [00:05:17]:
So it's a mother daughter movement that's grounded in connection and protection. This all came about, uh, about a year and a half ago when, like you mentioned, I've got three kids. I have an eleven year old and nine year old and a six year old, and they are like, so high energy, bouncing off the walls all the time. And I love that about them so much. But I'm like, oh, my gosh, you're going to drive me crazy. Um, and they do most of the time, but I love them for it. But about a year and a half ago, my daughter, my oldest daughter, Koen is her name. When she was nine, we were just doing the typical after school activities, just sitting at the counter, I was doing dishes, and I remember thinking in my head, like, you know, as I'm grabbing the cup, like, cup, plate as I'm putting it away, and I'm like, spoon, fork.
Traci [00:06:03]:
And there's, like, always that one fork that's like, stuck in the dishwasher, like, way deep down underneath. Like, how did that get there? Right at that same time, as I stood up and I'm holding this fork in my hand, my daughter Quinn says to me so thoughtfully, she said, mom, can we do woman lessons? And I was like, yes, of course. Like, my heart is beating like it was then. And I was like, yes, like, what do you want to. Yes, what do you want to know? Like, I'm a woman. I'm sitting here right in front of you, what lessons do you want to learn? And she sat there so thoughtfully, and she said, well, I want to learn how to do my makeup. I need to learn how to put together an outfit, and I need to learn how to cook. And I was, like, so sweet, right? Like, so cute.
Traci [00:06:44]:
And then I get stuck in that mental mom dark hole, and I just start spiraling down. I'm like, internally, I'm thinking, that is so sweet. But that is also so sad. Like, that all she thinks that a woman is, is what we look like, what we wear, and what we do. And it caused me to stop there with this fork in my hand. And I call those, you'll probably be familiar with this. I call these 1 minute moments where you have this 1 minute moment with our children that's so formative, where you can choose to go down this path, or you can choose to get a little introspective and go down this path, and you end up in totally different trajectories and totally different. And so I was like, what do I want her to know about being a woman? Because there's so much more to being a woman than that.
Traci [00:07:31]:
It's about being self assured. It's about knowing who you are. It's about having opinions, being able to articulate those opinions to other people. It's about being spirit led. It's about being kind and inclusive, all of those things. And I'm like, those are the things that I want her to know. And I was like, and I know I'm not alone in this as, like, a high performing mom, as an entrepreneur, as a business owner. You know, if we're not, if we're not careful, oftentimes, I mean, I'm sure you see this.
Traci [00:08:01]:
Talking with, with women is usually, it's the most confident, the most put together, the CEO's, the top producers, the high achievers that are actually the most insecure.
Marina [00:08:11]:
Oh, 100%. It's all a facade all of a.
Traci [00:08:14]:
Sudden, because usually we're people pleasers, right? We need that external validation to find our self worth. And so what I found is that if we're not careful, well intentioned mothers can inadvertently project their insecurities onto their daughters.
Marina [00:08:31]:
100%. Yes.
Traci [00:08:32]:
And so it's like, oh, my gosh, like, Marina, if I can create this container for mothers and daughters to personally develop and be very clear on who they are and develop themselves as strong, confident, self assured women, and they can personally develop side by side as high performing moms, we have this tug of war, this internal tug of war, where it's like I have all of these desires to be this connected mother, or I can be, you know, crushing these business goals and these desires that I have outside of the home. But what women need to realize is it's. There's not an or. They need to switch out that or with an and you can be a well connected present mother and be an amazing businesswoman. Because that's. That's how you actually show and model your children how to go after your dreams, right? You're giving them permission to do the same because otherwise we're just self sacrificing. And then we're going to raise another generation of self sacrificers.
Marina [00:09:37]:
Little kids model everything that we do or we model what they do. Like, I've started to notice, too. Even just like, how she talks on the play phone, she's acting like mommy. Exactly. Like, word for word. Oh, you are a sponge. It's pretty crazy. We just chose to homeschool our son, our nine year old, and so that's like, the best thing is because he can watch life happen.
Marina [00:09:56]:
It's not just like, see you at five, have a nice life. It's got to be integrated. First of all, I love that you're doing this because not only is it such a need, but it's such a sacred relationship that we have taken for granted.
Traci [00:10:06]:
Amen.
Marina [00:10:06]:
Parenting in general, we've just taken for granted that, like, okay, now I got them, let's just get them to graduation and then see you later. Like, the whole idea of a nuclear family, right? But this is something that is so needed. And what's shaping women today is social media, which has been really, really harmful.
Marina [00:10:22]:
Hey, ladies, real quick. If you are looking for a mentor, I just wanted to remind you that I offer mentorship to entrepreneurs. So if you're someone who has a never ending to do list and you're spiling out of control and feel like your business doesn't have a track plan, I want to work with you every single week for a month at a time. It's super simple, but I come from over ten years of experience doing this myself, and now I'm willing to give that information back to people. So I've mentored real estate agents, I've mentored wedding photographers, I've mentored other business owners, and they've come from a place of overwhelm, mostly, and they really just needed clarity and a couple of action steps to move the needle. And we've seen gigantom leaps and bounds in their business. Like, I can't even tell you so if you're interested and you want to know what that looks like, I want you to go to marinatolentino.com, and there's a calendly link there to do a 15 minutes discovery call with me just to see if we're a good vibe check to make sure we're on the same page. And I would love to work with you one on one to really boost your business to the next level.
Marina [00:11:18]:
Let's dive back in.
Marina [00:11:20]:
Quick story. Like, I have a personal trainer, and she was just sharing this with me that one of her new clients just booked her. She's 16 years old and wanted a booty pump for next week. And she's like, okay. Like, that's so random, whatever. But, like, didn't know the story then come to find out. Found out it's for a funeral, her mom's funeral. And she wants the booty pump for her ex to see her at the funeral.
Marina [00:11:39]:
And she spent $400 to get a booty pump a week away. And I'm, like, 16 year old. That's, like, so many things. I'm so concerned. Like, just. My heart breaks for this woman. I'm like, that's this generation, unfortunately, like, we have to be the ones to step up. So, first, props for seeing the need and seeing the idea that, like, hey, it's probably not just her, but her friends are probably feeling this, too.
Marina [00:12:00]:
Like, there is a craving to be mentored. That's incredible. So that's awesome.
Traci [00:12:05]:
So what does it look like?
Marina [00:12:06]:
What does be mean? Like, people get involved.
Traci [00:12:08]:
Yeah. So it's a place where. Where mothers and daughters can build belief in themselves, elevate other people as they become who God created them to be.
Marina [00:12:17]:
Amazing.
Traci [00:12:17]:
And so instead of looking to the world for external validation, like you mentioned through social media, which is just. It's heartbreaking, honestly, to see we're helping these women and their daughters to look inward and upward for their validation. So as you come to know yourself better, we like to say, like, when you truly remember who you are and whose you are, that's where true internal confidence comes from, is the more you can get to know what. What makes you special and what makes you unique. You know, I think sometimes, especially as girls, we get told a lot of messages as we're growing up. Some from our parents, some from our moms and our dads, our siblings, you know, punk kids at school, whatever. Whatever it is, those labels become our limits. Mm hmm.
Traci [00:13:06]:
You know, and I think we're labeled at such a young age. Different things for me, I remember when I was 14, I one student body president, and I remember walking up behind my friends, my circle of girlfriends, and they were talking about me, like, oh, she thinks she's so great. And da da da da da, whatever, whatever. And then I went home seeking, like, for reassurance.
Marina [00:13:32]:
Yeah.
Traci [00:13:33]:
And I had somebody that I loved very much say, well, these girls aren't treating you very nicely because you're too loud and you're too confident and you're too self assured, and it makes people feel uncomfortable. And so then, as this 14 year old, I was like, wait a minute. For my whole life, for the last 14 years, I've been celebrated for these gifts, right? It's like, oh, you have these natural leadership abilities. And until it became too much for those people around me, right. And so then I started to tone it down a little bit, and I thought it was my job to make everybody else around me comfortable when what I wish would have happened, because that label stuck with me for, like, 25 years. Literally. Literally. And these labels truly can become our limits unless we.
Traci [00:14:21]:
We reframe them. Right? Many women probably have been called like, oh, you're too emotional. No, you're just empathetic. Oh, you're too bossy. No, actually, you're a master delegator. Right? It's like, you can. You can reframe all of those things because the things that we've been told are wrong with us are actually the things that are right with us.
Marina [00:14:42]:
So good.
Traci [00:14:43]:
And they make us, like, they make us who we are and who God, like, called us to be. And it's like, we just need to own those things first. We need to, like, identify those things, own them, develop them, and then make sure that we're what you're doing here and what I'm doing with b is create this community of women who celebrate and support you in your gifts. It's like, I truly, truly believe that a group of powerful women that know who they are, know what gifts they possess, and they champion other people. There is nothing that that group of women cannot accomplish.
Marina [00:15:19]:
Oh, so true. Yeah.
Traci [00:15:21]:
But I feel like that's why women are under attack is because if we can keep. If we can keep women focused on the external, on their booty pump or whatever it is, do you know what I'm saying? If we can keep them focused on the external and take the focus away from who am I, really? And who's am I, then that's where the competition starts, right? That's where the comparison starts. That's where the self criticism starts and the judgment starts.
Marina [00:15:46]:
Yeah.
Traci [00:15:47]:
You know, so we just. We just have to be really, really, really careful and also realize that it's okay to set boundaries, too, because if people don't see your gifts and they don't celebrate those gifts, they are not your people.
Marina [00:15:59]:
Nope. Yep. We are not supposed to be all the same. That would be a really boring world.
Traci [00:16:03]:
Oh, my gosh. We just did.
Marina [00:16:06]:
Yeah, we have a connect group at church, and, like, one of the things we just did was take a spiritual gifts test, and I did it, like, years ago, but we just redid it. And so, of course, things change, and my gifts have changed, but I still have, like, a core thing, and mine's encouraging other women mentoring, and I'm like, well, go figure. Look what I'm doing. Someone else is, like, super gifted at this thing, and someone else is over here, and it's like, we don't want everyone to be the same, but in school, it's, like, the one that stands out as the odd one. And so I'm constantly trying to reinforce that, too, in our kids to be, like, you're supposed to stand out. You're a natural leader for a reason. Like, there's a reason everyone wants to do whatever you're doing. Like, use that.
Traci [00:16:41]:
Yes, totally. And even. And again, like, with those labels, like, my. My son, Tristan, my nine year old, I call him a high energy kid. I don't call him an ADHd kid.
Marina [00:16:51]:
Oh, no.
Traci [00:16:51]:
I don't call him a troubled child. I call him a high energy kid because he's high energy. And as moms, we can help reframe those labels in our children. So I say, tristan, your energy is going to change the world one day.
Marina [00:17:05]:
So good.
Traci [00:17:06]:
Like, that's his superpower. Yeah, that's his gift. So instead of, yes, is it. Is it challenging? Absolutely. But I had somebody tell me this once. It was one of his church teachers. They said, listen, we had a son just like Tristan, and they said, he's a stallion. And he said, don't try to break him.
Traci [00:17:27]:
His spirit and his energy just needs to be corralled. It just needs to be corralled. He doesn't need to be broken of it. Just love him because he's a stallion. And I'm like, oh, I love that. I love that so much. And that's what I needed to hear when I was 14 years old is, you know what? I gave you all those gifts for a reason, and you're going to use them for good. And there's going to be people that don't understand them.
Traci [00:17:50]:
And you can love them, but they don't need to be like in your close, close circle. You can always be kind, but you can also, you know, have boundaries.
Marina [00:17:58]:
Yeah. And I feel like it took me over a decade to like really get that. Because in your twenties you just want to be accepted and loved, right? So you're like willing to bend over backwards and then in your thirties suddenly you have a backbone. But we're still testing the backbone. It's not quite straight yet and we're still like pushing those yes and no's. That's so good.
Marina [00:18:14]:
Hey guys, I hope you're enjoying the podcast, but real quick, if you are someone that's super over and you're worrying, how the heck am I supposed to do all this stuff, I want to tell you, I have a really good four week course for you. It's called core values of your calendar. It's super succinct to the point, filled with stories about how I've overcome, overwhelmed myself and the strategies and tools I use today to do all the things that I'm doing today. So I've been there, I've seen it. I mean, I still see it on my feed today. All the influencers who are telling us, do this, sell more, be more, post twelve times a day, right? And it's freaking impossible. And so I want you to go to marinatolentino.com, scroll down and look for the course again. It's called core values of your calendar.
Marina [00:18:52]:
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Marina [00:19:06]:
So you have some statistics on your speaker kit that I just want to read out loud because I think they're so good. But you said 42% of women admitted to never complimenting themselves, 46% of women say they criticized themselves at least once before. 09:30 a.m. 75% of women have disordered eating patterns, and 90% of women lack self worth. So that's like majority for pretty much all of those that we're all falling victim to, which is a huge heartbreak that we've allowed ourselves to get there. Like, oh my gosh, what do you have to say about that?
Traci [00:19:35]:
Yeah, I mean, it is heartbreaking. And that's the thing is we've heard the quote before, be the change that you want to see. Right? It's like, why? I think it's twofold. Because here's the other thing, women and moms, we also don't need, like, extra things to make us feel guilty. Do you know what I'm saying? Like, oh, well, hey, there's 75. 75% of women have disordered eating. Well, that's a learned pattern, typically so. Oh, man.
Traci [00:20:01]:
Well, here we go. Well, that's something I got to work on. Yeah, we do. We do. Because we're setting an example. That doesn't mean that you snap your fingers and you have to be perfect. It means that you have to be progressing. I always say that all of these techniques that I teach is a daily practice, not a daily perfect.
Traci [00:20:19]:
Yeah, just as long as you're progressing, we're going to be fine. We're really going to be fine. But those are learned behaviors, many of those things. Which is why I wanted to create this mother daughter movement where mothers and daughters could personally develop together, because could I have run a camp where I would take these girls of nine and twelve and take them out of their environment, make them feel good, remember who they are and whose you are. Like, talk about gratitude. Talk about your divine gifts and setting boundaries and regenerating your energy and all these things that we talk about and teach. And then if I put them back in their home with a mom who self criticizes, judges herself and her children, projects all of her insecurities onto them, isn't personally developing, then that girl's going to revert right back to the patterns that she had before. So it's sort of like a call to arms with moms.
Traci [00:21:15]:
Do you know what I'm saying? And I feel like there's a special breed of mom that's in the world right now. Like, there's sort of like this calling and rustling and awakening that. I think a lot of women, especially high performing women with children, like, they're feeling this call to, like, rise up.
Marina [00:21:34]:
A little bit, you know, 100% with you. Yeah. I mean, just with our choice to homeschool in the last two months, so many of my friends and people that I follow are like, I've been thinking about it, too. I think I'm going to do it next year. And I'm like, you and you and you. And then so many people I didn't know were homeschooling came out and said, oh, we've been homeschooling. We love it. I'm like, you never thought.
Marina [00:21:52]:
But it's because something is wrong with what's going on. We don't like how our children are developing. If we just let America do it the way that America would. And so absolutely, it's like enough is enough. We've hit the pain threshold. It's time to change. And if we think this is the next generation, if we could have it anyway, how would we have it? Let's do something about it. What is the experience like? Is it a group course?
Marina [00:22:10]:
Is it an event?
Marina [00:22:11]:
Like, how do you plug in?
Traci [00:22:12]:
There's two types of events. So we do mother daughter date nights and I'm in Utah, so most of these, most of these events are here in Utah. So we do mother daughter date nights once a quarter, and then we have a weekend summit on June 7 and 8th. So that's going to be a day and a half. We're bringing in expert speakers from Utah, from California, from Florida. And it's just going to be an all immersive, like, weekend, mother daughter weekend getaway. It's going to be so, it's going to be so fun. Friday night we're doing a service project with mothers without Borders that is going to touch.
Traci [00:22:49]:
Oh, my gosh, it's, it's going to be so powerful. We talked to these girls and these women to be candle lighters and not candle outers. I know that sounds kind of funny, but literally it's like, are you walking around trying to blow out people's candles? And is somebody always trying to blow out yours? That's a good indicator and a filter for people who you want to have in your life and who you don't want to have in your life. And would you want to be in someone's life if you're going around trying to blow out people's candles? So we're doing a service project where we're going to connect with a girl in Africa. So we're going to light the candle of a girl who's in Africa, and then they're going to write back to the daughter and the mother with a picture and the whole thing. And then we're going to do like a dance party, karaoke. That's going to be super fun. And then all day Saturday is going to be activities because girls between the ages of nine and twelve, and if your listeners and viewers are thinking, oh, man, I've got a 13 year old, have them come, it's totally, totally applicable to 13 year olds.
Traci [00:23:46]:
I would say eight is just a smidgen too young. If they're a mature eight, they'd be fine, but the target is between nine and twelve year olds. But they just want activities. They want to do things with their mom in this psychosocial stage of their development. It's identity and confusion. So they're learning who they are, they're learning who they want to be and they want to try on all those hats. It's like, am I an athlete? Am I an artist? Am I creative? Do I love working with my hands? Do I love fine needlework? Like, whatever it is, they want to just do fun things when the most important thing is they just want to connect with their moms. So we create a ton of connection activities and then we come back and we teach a principle, a framework and inspire a behavior.
Traci [00:24:33]:
It's pretty fast moving because we have to keep, you know, these young girls attention. But they are incredible foundational concepts that's taken me 25 years to learn. And if I can save one mom, if I can save one girl from 25 years of struggle and pitfalls and heartache and hardship, of not loving their body at every stage, of having disordered eating patterns, of forgetting who they are and trying to people please my way through life, if I could save them from hyper achieving and overachieving and getting all those accolades just to prove that they're worthy, if I could save even just one person from that, it's all worth it. Oh, yeah, it's all worth it.
Marina [00:25:15]:
I think you already have. That's the amazing part. Now it's just spreading and it's the ripple, right? Yeah, it's, it's the candle lighting. You're lighting the next one. When you were thinking the candle put our outers, I was thinking the snuffers. You don't want to be a snuffer. No, snuffers allow no snuffing.
Traci [00:25:30]:
This is an, is a snuff free zone. It's so true. It's so true, though.
Marina [00:25:36]:
Oh, my gosh. So good. It sounds so fun. And I think for sure when Mika gets a little bit older, she's only four right now. We would love to participate. That sounds amazing. Oh, it just continues. And you have pop ups in other cities.
Marina [00:25:46]:
You can go and tour. Who knows what it could be?
Traci [00:25:49]:
Yes. Well, it's funny you should say that because I think that might be in the works. So if you're like, oh, my gosh, I can't make it out to Utah or I'm traveling that weekend or whatever, just go onto our website, Tracy Peterson.com. You can type in the little, like, info and just like, email me and say, like, we want this out in our neck of the woods because we've been starting to get a lot of people, like in Arizona and California and Idaho, that are wanting things, and people on the east coast are asking now. So we'd love to know. So tell us. Oh, fine. I'll come out to Hawaii.
Traci [00:26:20]:
Okay.
Marina [00:26:21]:
We will gladly host you. Yes. It'd be amazing. One of the things you mentioned, too, was, like, the goal setting issues that we have. So you mentioned goal setting with gratitude and grace. Can you define what that means for a high producer?
Traci [00:26:32]:
Goal setting with gratitude and grace. I think that specifically for high performing women, we are not at any shortage. We are always thinking of the next thing. We're always thinking of the next goal. But very rarely do high performing women pause to give themselves a pat on the back and to celebrate all the things that they're doing, because we're constantly driven by what is next. What is next, what is next? And so that's why high performing women oftentimes desire. Like, how can I have more presence? Like, I feel like I'm go, go, go, go, go. But I don't really feel like I'm present in my life.
Traci [00:27:12]:
It's like my life is just happening, and I'm, like, just sort of floating through my life, if that makes sense. And so something that's helped me have a little bit more gratitude and grace with. With my goal setting is just that. It's setting up a daily practice of gratitude.
Marina [00:27:27]:
Yeah.
Traci [00:27:28]:
And I know it sounds super simple and hokey, and I am. I am one that I am not a super complex morning routine. Hour long. My morning routine is three minutes. Why? Because I know I can do it every single stinking day. And so I can pray. I can get grounded in gratitude. So I literally ground.
Traci [00:27:48]:
I take off my shoes and I ground my feet and I open up my blinds so that I can face the sun. There's some symbolism there.
Marina [00:27:56]:
Yep.
Traci [00:27:57]:
You can kind of go with it. But sun gives you life. Sun gives you energy, right? And so I turn and I face the sun and I pray, and then I list three things that I'm grateful for. And I keep my hand on my heart, because the greatest goal that any of us could have is that we get up each day and we have the breath of life, that we have the gift of the day in front of us. And then. And then I'm going to go here. Normally, I don't go here, but I ask God where he needs me to go. I ask God who he needs me to talk to and to place people in my life that need me.
Traci [00:28:31]:
And I think we don't talk about that enough in business because I think maybe it's a little taboo where, you know, having a spirit led business. But I think it's important. I really, truly do.
Marina [00:28:42]:
Absolutely.
Traci [00:28:42]:
Because it goes back to knowing who you are and whose you are and that there is a plan for each one of us, that our divine potential goes far beyond the things of this life. And so if, yes, we're here to work and to develop and grow ourselves and turn around and help develop other people, then we probably should have, like, a co creator partnership with God, and he's going to guide us. When have I felt that I've been the most successful? Is when I partnered with God.
Marina [00:29:17]:
Oh, 100%, yes. The times when we blaze our own path, let's go together.
Traci [00:29:22]:
And you know what, Marina? This is something that I know God is just like this. Like, oh, Tracy, it's going to take your whole life, you sweet thing, to figure this out. I will just keep trying to rely on my own natural man and my own inclinations and just do it. I got it, I got it, I got it, I got it, I got it. Until I don't got it no more. And then he's like, we've got it. Like, I've got you, you know? So it's such a good reminder to always, always invite him in. He's always there ready.
Traci [00:29:50]:
He's always there standing door. He just needs to be invited in. We just need.
Marina [00:29:54]:
And I ask how you know that you're in alignment. What does that look like and feel like for you?
Traci [00:29:58]:
That is a really, really great question. I know that I'm with in you alignment. When I have energy, when I'm depleted of energy, I know that I'm not honoring my values. And I walk our mothers and daughters through this process, too. So it's very, very simple. If any of your listeners want it, they can just message me on the website and just type in energy, because I have this whole regenerate energy worksheet that they can walk through. But I identify my top three energy generators that will be different for everybody.
Marina [00:30:35]:
Yeah.
Traci [00:30:36]:
So yours might be walking outside. I've worked with women who, you know, felt stressed out and overwhelmed and completely out of alignment, and I'm like, what is your energy generator? She's like, I love riding my horse. And I'm like, when was the last time you rode your horse? She's like, three months ago. I'm like, go. Go ride the dang horse, you know? And so I feel the most aligned when I know that my three values, I'm hitting those consistently, and mine is health, number one. But underneath, health is health, mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. And for the longest time, I was like, oh, whenever I do these value things, I'm like, I always, like, like, wanted to put God up there, but it never felt right. It's because it's health.
Traci [00:31:28]:
It's helped spiritually, and he's involved in that. And for me, I also find God more when I'm taking care of my body, when I'm taking care, when I go to the gym, when I'm putting good foods into my body. We teach these girls that you're more than your body, but it is important to invest in your vessel. And so when I'm investing in my vessel, I feel God more. I have more of, like, a direct contact conduit with him when those things are in alignment. So I feel like God is wrapped up in health. It's kind of mind, body, spirit, you know?
Marina [00:32:01]:
Yeah.
Traci [00:32:01]:
So I felt guilty about that for a lot because I was like, it should be God. And it's like, it is God.
Marina [00:32:06]:
Yeah. It just feels like devotions over business or whatever. Like, it felt phony. And that makes total sense. Yeah.
Traci [00:32:13]:
Yes, yes, yes, yes. So, yeah, if something doesn't quite feel right, try to try to find. Find the God and, you know, in everything that you do. But so mine is health and then family and then my mission. And so those are my top three. And within family, I really try to do one on one dates with all of my kids, and they have loved that so much, and it doesn't. We don't always go, go somewhere or spend money. Sometimes we'll just go for.
Traci [00:32:41]:
We call it a gratitude walk. And they love it.
Marina [00:32:43]:
They love.
Traci [00:32:44]:
Or just a drive that can be our one on one date. Kids just want 100% focused attention, and we live in. Where's my phone? It's in my back pocket. Hello. Right? Like, it's always on our person, and so we're always distracted. And so I think it goes a long way to set those boundaries of, hey, I'm not even going to bring my phone on our drive. And so they know it's not even there. Even if the phone is, like, turned down on the table, you know, that.
Traci [00:33:14]:
That's pretty.
Marina [00:33:16]:
You know, if you go to lunch with someone and their phones on the table, it's so distracting. Even though it's off, it's just distracting.
Traci [00:33:23]:
I know. And I'm so guilty of doing it. I was like, daily progress, right?
Marina [00:33:29]:
Not perfect.
Traci [00:33:30]:
Certainly. Certainly not perfect. But to go back to your question, that's how I know when I'm in alignment.
Marina [00:33:35]:
Yeah.
Traci [00:33:35]:
Is when I have those three energy generators in my day and in my calendar. And I audit my calendar so frequently, usually seasonally, especially with kids. I think this is, this is a really good tip, is because usually kids go on seasons, right? It's like basketball season or volleyball season or baseball season. So at the beginning of each season, we audit the calendar and make sure that our energy generators are scheduled in there first. And so you are building your business around your life, around your energy generators, and not the other way around.
Marina [00:34:11]:
Yep.
Traci [00:34:12]:
And this is a skill that we teach these girls in a very simple way of how to identify what their energy generators are. And it's darling because my eleven year old is her pets. Like her church group, you know, and singing, it's like. So we need to make sure that those things are in there. And if they're not, then she's being depleted of energy. She's not living in alignment. And so we also talk about how we can communicate that and foster communication, and we call it needing to have an energy or a values check in. Mom, I need to have a values check in.
Traci [00:34:47]:
Sort of like a safe word where it's like, if they don't quite know how to bring it up, like, hey, mom, you're wanting me to play volleyball all the time, when really all I want to do is study animals or be with my friend, you know, we teach them how to have a more responsible conversation over making sure that they're in alignment with their values. And I think the earlier that we can teach them these skill sets, the more likely we are to avoid the overwhelm, the stress, the burnout, not listening to their inner voice when they know that things are off and they just don't know how to stop the ship and turn it around, you know, so good.
Marina [00:35:26]:
No. And it comes back to that place of knowing who you are before you're shaping yourself to what the world tells you to be, what kind of business owner to be, or whatever so and so is doing. XYZ, do I have to do it too? Like, no, no, no, no, we're not doing that. That's so good. I think there's so many gems that people will get out of this episode. Like, it's so encouraging. And I'm just so glad that you could share your story and what you're doing to change the world that surround you, which is so needed. We need more people like you, Tracy.
Traci [00:35:53]:
There are so many amazing people out there, and I love what you're doing here to create this community of high performing women, because we need to hear all the stories. We need to hear all the little tips. Newsflash. Nobody's got it figured out.
Marina [00:36:06]:
Nope.
Traci [00:36:07]:
Nobody's got it figured out. It's like, you try something, you're like, that didn't work. So now let's make a little micro adjustment, and we just need to teach each other all the micro adjustments that we've learned through. Through our mistakes. It doesn't mean you're a bad mom. It means you're the best mom because you're still learning and you're still growing and still trying to figure it out.
Marina [00:36:24]:
Totally. And I always say, like, we're so connected online, but we're so disconnected intimately. Like, we don't have the real, real talks. It's like likes and loves and whatever, but no one's sharing. Like, actually, this is really hard, what I'm going through right now. Like, homeschooling is really hard right now. We have a lot of emotions flying. It's not easy.
Marina [00:36:41]:
But on Instagram, you might think that I have all put it together. You're like, it's just two year olds. Yeah.
Traci [00:36:45]:
Yeah. Which also, I love that point that we're, like, so disconnected and we don't have that human connection. Because I thought, and I went back and forth in my mind a little bit when I was creating these events. I'm like, should I just do them online? I'll be able to reach more people, but it's like, am I really going to be able to reach more people? Like, really, really reach? And the answer was no. And so, is coming to an event a commitment? Absolutely. Is it a sacrifice? Depends on how you look at it. Because to me, what is your daughter's self worth? Worthless. Anything.
Traci [00:37:21]:
Worth anything? Everything. I'll maybe wrap with this story. After our very first event, we did something called angel Whispers, where we had all of the girls and the moms, we took them just through this, like, really, really simple guided meditation where they. They went back and they talked to themselves as a little girl when they were the most happy and they felt the most contented. And that little girl had a message to give them. And some of these messages that we heard, like, mine was, you're enough just the way that you are. And then we, we all stood in a circle, and we had the little nine to twelve year old stand in the circle as each mom and as each girl went up and whispered their lesson or their learning, that they wish they would have known sooner, that they wish they would have been told. And everybody was just in tears and I literally was standing there and I felt.
Traci [00:38:18]:
I felt like I was seeing a generation change right before my eyes.
Marina [00:38:23]:
Crazy.
Traci [00:38:24]:
Where I saw mothers pouring into my daughter and I saw other girls, young girls, supporting and uplifting and sharing their lessons and their learnings with each other. And I had this little eleven year old come up to me just in tears. And she's like, Tracy, that's the most that I've ever felt spirit in my entire life.
Marina [00:38:48]:
That's powerful.
Traci [00:38:49]:
It's like. And then we just hugged and embraced and she just sobbed and I sobbed and I was like, you can't get that online. These are experiences and connections that are going to shape these little girls for the rest of their lives. And that relationship between mother and daughter shapes them for the rest of their life. So why wouldn't we want to become the best version of ourselves as moms? Why wouldn't we want to be connected with other moms who want the same things and that are moving in the same, you know, direction that we are? Because again, when we do that, when we can combine together, that's how you truly lift and elevate the world is one connection at a time, one person at a time, one spirit at a time. And then it just starts to grow so good.
Marina [00:39:39]:
Oh, my gosh. Okay, so what is the action step for people who are interested in attending? There's ticket sales online, I'm assuming?
Traci [00:39:46]:
Yes, yes. Ticket sales are online. You can go to tracy peterson.com dot. Tracy is with an I. Peterson's with an o. So Tracy peterson.com. It's right there. And then for your listeners, too.
Traci [00:40:00]:
Are you, do you know when this is airing?
Marina [00:40:02]:
Hopefully the end of May.
Traci [00:40:03]:
End of May. Perfect. Perfect. I'm going to give your listeners a special code that they can get 10% off. Okay.
Marina [00:40:10]:
Okay. Awesome.
Traci [00:40:11]:
It's BBG ten.
Marina [00:40:13]:
Easy.
Traci [00:40:14]:
BBG ten. Just through the end of maybe. And I'm excited to see all of.
Marina [00:40:20]:
You guys there, actually, because your event's coming up in June. Maybe we'll push it up the roster there.
Traci [00:40:26]:
I was going to say I was hoping it would be April because then I was going to extend the code, but whatever works, we'll work with your assistant and we'll make sure that that code is active for your listeners.
Marina [00:40:37]:
Amazing. Okay, so I end every episode with a fun rapid fire just to get to know you a little bit better. But what is your Starbucks order?
Traci [00:40:43]:
Oh, egg white bites, red pepper egg white bites, and a dragon fruit refresher.
Marina [00:40:50]:
Yum. Easy. Okay, what do you make for dinner if it's last minute?
Traci [00:40:52]:
Shrimp and, like, just sauteed with butter and italian seasoning.
Marina [00:40:58]:
Yeah, you do that Hawaii style. Just garlic shrimp.
Traci [00:41:01]:
Yeah.
Marina [00:41:02]:
Yes.
Traci [00:41:02]:
That's literally, I'm like. Or, yes, I have, like, minced garlic that I just, like, throw in. Yeah.
Marina [00:41:07]:
Love it. Okay, what's your favorite? Go to department of target and your favorite designer there.
Traci [00:41:11]:
That's a great question. I'm usually, like, in. You know what? I'm normally in the holiday section at target buying candy. Like, I'm just gonna be real. Yeah, true. It's like, that's just true.
Marina [00:41:23]:
Yep.
Traci [00:41:24]:
Because we just came up with Easter, and I was, like, in that section all the time.
Marina [00:41:28]:
That's all.
Traci [00:41:29]:
I'm a lover of. Of candy. That is. That is a weakness. But I always pair it with a protein and a fat so it stabilizes my blood sugar.
Marina [00:41:37]:
We're good.
Traci [00:41:38]:
We're good.
Marina [00:41:39]:
Okay, well, name a book or a podcast you'd recommend to the audience and why.
Traci [00:41:44]:
Oh, my goodness gracious. Sheri do. If life were easy, it wouldn't be hard.
Marina [00:41:51]:
Ooh, that sounds good. Yeah. Okay.
Traci [00:41:55]:
That's when I was going through a very, very hard time in my life, in my early twenties, and that book, I was like, okay, God, you're speaking, like, right to me.
Marina [00:42:03]:
Wow. Okay, we'll definitely link that one so people can get that TikTok or Instagram.
Traci [00:42:07]:
Instagram? I don't even have a TikTok.
Marina [00:42:09]:
Oh, good job. You. I know.
Traci [00:42:11]:
I've, like, resisted for such a long time.
Marina [00:42:15]:
Don't fall into it now.
Traci [00:42:16]:
I know.
Marina [00:42:18]:
Okay. And then where can people find you on Instagram? What's your handle?
Traci [00:42:21]:
My handle is. And then the mother daughter movement pages. Other daughter movement.
Marina [00:42:27]:
Awesome.
Traci [00:42:28]:
Amazing.
Marina [00:42:28]:
Thank you so much for your time. I can't wait for this to get out and for people to learn about it and just get inspired, especially for moms of daughters, just to get really encouraged to realize we can change the world with one girl at a time. And that's mic drop.
Traci [00:42:43]:
Boom.
Marina [00:42:44]:
All right, thank you, my dear.
Traci [00:42:46]:
Thank you. You're amazing. Keep doing what you're doing.
Marina [00:42:48]:
No problem. We'll see you soon. Bye.
